How Mindfulness Can Change Your Life

Last week you learned what mindfulness is, so this week I want to talk about what mindfulness is not.

As I mentioned in part one, mindfulness is a fundamental component of my Concierge Wellness program and also one of the most popular workshop topics for my Corporate Wellness clients. Click here to book a Corporate Wellness workshop.

So what does not being mindful look like?

  • • Allowing distractions to gain your attention while having a conversation
  • • Multitasking
  • • Worrying about the past and/or future



Let me give you one of my favorite examples of how mindfulness, or lack thereof, can change your life…

Take a conversation with your friend, partner, colleague. Right now, many of them are over the phone, yet imagine this one is in person and neither of you are masked. You are able to see the other person’s full face.

Imagine this person is telling you a story about something that is really not all that important to you, yet it is to them. Say, they are upset about something another friend “did” to them.

As you listen, you notice other things around you, you feel your phone buzz that someone has texted, and you are feeling distracted, even not listening that closely anymore losing parts of their story.

When you leave the conversation, the person leaves frustrated, and you leave not really understanding what the big deal is. What was the point of even being in the conversation?

This is an example of how your lack of mindfulness, although unintentional, can negatively affect your relationships.

Let’s take another example. Say you are stressed at work and are working on four different projects, trying to schedule your daughter’s long-awaited orthodontist appointment, and sending texts to a buddy about the latest IG feed from some fitness star.



Do you think all of those activities will be completed to the best of your abilities? Probably not. If you are multitasking, you are not being mindful. Being mindful means being present to that one task, that one conversation or that one project, and not interrupted repeatedly by other texts, emails or “noise.” Present to yourself and present to others around you. It means remaining in the moment and focusing on one thing, not focusing on the past or the future…just the now.

Here is another example of how your lack of mindfulness can increase your stress and prevent you from living a joyful and fulfilling life.

It’s a nice and sunny day so you decide to take a break to get some fresh air and go on a walk, yet instead of noticing the many beautiful things around you – flowers blooming, birds chirping – you begin checking email on your phone and worry about deadlines or what somebody said about something. You get home from your walk and feel more stressed than you did when you left.

You may still be wondering how your lack of mindfulness can hinder your ability to lose weight. You can:

  • • Be distracted eating/eating on the go
  • • Eat when you aren’t really hungry
  • • Not address your stress (the time you spent worrying about your upcoming deadlines could have been spent on a 5-minute flow or prepping your meals for the day.)
  • • Therefore, your sleep is not good…
  • • Making you hungrier the following day…
  • • And, worst of all, feel “you’ll never achieve what you want from your wellness so you don’t try.



Our inability to be fully present is negatively affecting our ability to achieve that fit body and true wellness that we so desperately want. It’s essential.

Next week in part three I will share the many research based benefits of incorporating mindfulness into your daily life. If you’re interested in my concierge program and how you can develop your own mindfulness practice, click here for a free 30-minute consult. If you’d like to book a Mindfulness Corporate Wellness workshop for your staff, click here.


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Adrien founded Fitness on the Run in 2004 out of her home after a successful career in policy and public affairs communications. After spending 15 years developing her own personal definition of wellness and watching thousands struggle with theirs, in January 2019 Adrien founded Alexandria Wellness, the home for the Concierge Wellness Program and Corporate Wellness with Adrien Cotton. Over the course of 15 years, “FOR” was home to more than 2,000 clients, 30 instructors, and hundreds of inspirational success stories. Adrien is now, more-than-ever, passionate about helping women view their fitness as a journey, not a quick fix. Adrien’s recipe for success herself has evolved from a rigid training plan of sweaty and heart pumping workouts to some days getting in her 10,000 steps, consciously breathing, her 7.5 hours of sleep, and her beloved 5-Minute Flow. Adrien believes the most important ingredient is making small changes for big results, even if it’s one new habit formed each month. Still passionate about fitness, Adrien’s clients appreciate her ability to make sessions seriously challenging without a “beat down,” a healthy mix of strength and metabolic (cardio) work and ultimately helping her clients gain real strength in mind and body. She believes we all benefit from being curious about our bodies and that change, or improvement, is within reach despite what your “inner voice” or others may tell you. Adrien is bubbling with excitement to help women learn the importance of a comprehensive approach to wellness, weight loss, and contentedness with yourself, and that every person has the right to feel good about themselves. Most days, you can find her helping clients with their wellness, listening to success stories, and bragging about her twin 13-year-old children and “fittest man in Alexandria” Bill Cotton. Adrien prides herself on her practice of mindfulness, meditation, and putting it all into perspective.

Alexandria Wellness offers achievable answers for anyone who is tired of chasing fitness and health without a clear plan, someone who has struggled and is not satisfied with their fitness and wellness or someone who is open to maximized healthful longevity and fitness along with healthful weight loss. Adrien and her team offer help with food guidance, body acceptance, sleep and stress issues, and insist you have fun along the way.

Schedule your free 30 minute consult here!

Alexandria Wellness
215 North Payne Street
Alexandria, VA 22314



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