Imagine a friend sustained a serious cut requiring medical attention. Do you think you would tell them to “get over it” or to “shake it off?” Or, what if a friend was passed over for a promotion at work. Would you just tell them “oh, well.” What if that friend suffered from deep loneliness or lack of self-confidence? Would you help them by trash talking them more?
You’re probably thinking – of course you wouldn’t. You would help them with their cut, encourage them to keep working hard, and raise them up when they talk down on themselves. So why do we not do the same for ourselves? Every day, every hour, we talk ourselves into deeper self-doubt about our wants, needs, dreams, and ambitions.
Last weekend, I was given the honor to speak at Congressman Don Beyer’s Women’s Conference. I took the opportunity to help this crowd of women devoted to women’s rights understand self-care. And, yes, even Jane Fonda spoke about the importance of self-care. And she is about as well at 80 years old as she was at 30 years old!
When we have emotional scars, we tend to disregard our emotions. We tell ourselves:
“I am not good enough”
“I’ll start a new diet next week”
“I’ll never have that body”
“I am exhausted and can’t exercise”
“I stink at push-ups”
“I’m too busy for sleep”
“They need me”
These self-talk statements are the same as cutting a wound deeper. The only difference is we are hurting ourselves emotionally, not physically.
Why do we tend to take care of our physical well-being, but we struggle to care for our emotional health?
As I continue in my pursuit to help women find their true wellness through an inner compass that fuels them, I’ve realized self-care is a component of their wellness so many struggle to “justify.”
So, what really is this self-care thing and why is it the wellness “buzz” word now?
Self-care is your individual means for recharging and caring for your mind; it’s a way you can tend to your mind like you would your body. Tons of research abounds on how self-care not only helps to reduce and manage stress, but can also extend your life.
“Every one of us makes choices every day. For every choice we make, there will be consequences. The more honest we are with ourselves about the motivation that drives our choices, the healthier we will be. This is as true for caregiving for others as it is for any other area of our lives, perhaps even more so…” Christiane Northrup, MD
Self-care doesn’t just mean getting a massage or going for a manicure. Some examples of real self-care include:
So stop burning the candle at both ends. Take control of you. And, treat your mind as lovingly as you want to treat your body.
Alexandria Wellness offers achievable answers for anyone who is tired of chasing fitness and health without a clear plan, someone who has struggled and is not satisfied with their fitness and wellness or someone who is open to maximized healthful longevity and fitness along with healthful weight loss. Adrien and her team offer help with food guidance, body acceptance, sleep and stress issues, and insist you have fun along the way.
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