Share the Love, part 3: What To Look for in a Workout Buddy

If you’ve been following me this month you know that I’m a big proponent of having a workout partner. I’ve talked about some of the benefits of having a partner and have even gone so far as to suggest that you look to your spouse, partner, or family as a potential workout partner. So now that I’ve planted the seed, it’s time to talk about what to look for when choosing a partner, or, what type of partner you should be if a friend or family member asks you.


Your workout buddy should be someone you like.

I know…this sounds kinda silly, right? Why would I choose someone I don’t like? Well, you’d be surprised how many people go for the “aspirational” workout partner without really knowing them as a person. You and your workout partner should know each other well enough to know when you need that boost or that laugh to get through a workout. There are going to be days where working out is a chore and getting through these days are arguably the most important of the workouts you will do. Coming out on the other side with a feeling of accomplishment will motivate you to do it again the next time you don’t feel like working out. And having a friend by your side makes it that much easier.



Have compatible schedules and always, always be on time.

It goes without saying that your schedules need to align – especially if you have a “non-standard” time for working out. Most people can make a 6am workout (whether you want to is an entirely different story), but what if the only time you can work out is the middle of the afternoon? You need to find someone who’s also free at that time. And please…be on time. Being late leads to missing workouts and that isn’t fair to you or your partner.


Your goals should be compatible, not necessarily comparable.

What I mean here is that you and your workout buddy should have goals that mesh well. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, maybe you find a workout buddy who’s training for a 5K. Why? Because workouts are going to be more cardio than strength-based. So while your goals may be different, you’re doing the same type of workout to get there.



Find fitness role model.

This does not mean you should go out and find the fittest person you know and try to buddy up with them. Ideally you want to find someone who’s a fitness role model but at the same time, their level of fitness is achievable to you if you work at it. Now this doesn’t sound fair, if you’re the fitter of the two – does it? But there are two ways to look at it. First, you could take a more altruistic approach and be willing to help someone meet their fitness goals. Or you, too, can use the motivation of your partner to keep your level of fitness just a lit bit ahead of your partner. When you push each other you benefit from something called the “Kohler effect,” which states that a person works harder as a member of a group than when working alone.


It’s Share the Love month at Fitness on the Run.

If you have a friend, partner or family member you want to try working out with – bring them to your personal training session. Whether you’re friend is an FOR client or not, try us out free. Who knows, this could be the start of something new for the two of you!


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Adrien founded Fitness on the Run in 2004 out of her home. After spending 15 years developing her own personal definition of wellness and watching thousands struggle with theirs, in January 2019 Adrien founded Alexandria Wellness, the home for the Concierge Wellness Program and Corporate Wellness with Adrien Cotton. Over the course of 15 years, “FOR” was home to more than 1,500 clients, 25 instructors, and hundreds of inspirational success stories. Adrien is now-more-than-ever passionate about helping others view their fitness as a journey, not a quick fix. Adrien’s recipe for success herself has evolved from a rigid training plan of sweaty workout weeks to some days getting in her 10,000 steps, consciously breathing, her 7.5 hours of sleep and her beloved 5-Minute Flow. Now, Adrien believes the most important ingredient is making small changes for big results, even if it’s one new habit formed each month. Still passionate about fitness, Adrien’s clients appreciate her ability to make sessions seriously challenging without a “beat down”, a healthy mix of strength and metabolix work and ultimately helping her clients gain real strength. Adrien believes we all benefit from being curious about our bodies and our health and that change, or improvement, is always within reach despite what your “inner voice” or others may tell you. Adrien is bubbling with excitement to help Alexandrians learn the importance of a comprehensive approach to wellness, weight loss, and contentedness with yourself, and that every person has the right to feel good about themselves. Most days, you can find her helping clients with their wellness and listening to clients’ success stories and bragging about her twin 12 year old children and “fittest man in Alexandria” Bill Cotton. Adrien prides herself on her practice of mindfulness, meditation, and putting it all into perspective.

Fitness on the Run is Fitness for Life. Combining a focus on strong bodies and strong minds with a robust wellness education program and unparalleled personalized attention, we provide fitness for health, longevity and functionality.

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